sounds familiar Musing on the present. Reminiscing about the past. Posturing for the future.

29Nov/100

whatever it is we do on a regular basis

A nice long week in Oregon, away from the hustle and bustle of whatever it is we do on a "regular basis."

We had a great Thanksgiving.  Spent some much-needed time with family.  Grammy and Grandpa watched Cohen one afternoon while Sharaun and I took Keaton to see the new Disney movie Tangled (which, by the way, I truly enjoyed), and then watched both kids another evening so Sharaun and I could have a nice dinner together.  We needed some time off as a couple I think, I it just reminded me that we have to make time for that more often.  We grabbed some Thai food and bummed around the mall for an hour or so... the kind of "old people" date we've come to accept as what we now enjoy more than $12 cocktails, barstools, and thumping bass.  As we trod the aisles of the Hot Topic, lamenting the capitalistic misappropriation of our youth, we happily agreed that we are now "parents" and are fine with it.  Old-people dates: best enjoyed tepid.

I thought today about how the year is already almost over.  Over!  I sometimes don't understand how time moves so quickly.  Next week I have a mandatory all-day training that lasts three days.  That'll kill the week.  Two weeks after that and we're off to Florida to ring in the new year for another couple weeks.  I'll be a blur, like it always is, and then it'll be next year and we'll be racing to Keaton's birthday and all the other markers that we measure.  I sometimes think I "conceptualize" the passing of time in the wrong ways.  It almost feels like I think about time "in between" these milestones, and sometimes miss what's happening day-to-day in between.  I'm always thinking about what happened "between" this thing and that thing... I want to start thinking about how long each day itself is - what we can do with the time that's right on top of us.

Goodnight.

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25Nov/100

Happy Thanksgiving

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Mmmmm, gravy...

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24Nov/102

cold turkey

It's 18° in Oregon and I've been cozied-up on the couch at my folks' place since Monday night.

I had to work yesterday and today, and since a good portion of folks are already on vacation I found myself busier than I expected for what was supposed to be a couple of "slow" holiday workdays.  I found myself feeling guilty, which is wrong, but I had this notion that these would be "easy" working-from-home days and I'd be spending time with family moreso than turning the millstone.  My fault really, if I'd really wanted a vacation I could've burned the days instead of trying to cheat them out.  Maybe today will be better.  Maybe it'll teach me the rest of my lesson.

We got in Monday night around 7pm after a little more than an hour of flight delay.  None of us were groped, scanned, or otherwise molested by the TSA - security was as it's always been and altogether uneventful.  My mom had a late dinner prepared and waiting for us, which was much appreciated.  Keaton, being excited to finally be at Grammy & Grandpa's place, was granted a "stay up late" night and got to play until around 10pm.  At about 9:30pm she peeked out the front door and announced that it was "snowing hard."  Already in her pajamas, she ran to get her shoes and jacket and we both went out into the driveway (me in shorts, an undershirt, and slippers) to make prints in the newly fallen snow.  She really likes that less-than-an-inch of snow.

I've got my sights set on Thursday for some turkey, beer, and football.  Brother's coming over with his wife and the new niece we've yet to meet and I'm anticipating an incredibly lazy day spent reading, continually nibbling, and hanging out.

Goodnight.

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16Nov/100

a family portrait

Sharaun posted this on her Facebook the other day (I know because I lurk), so it's nothing new to the internet - but I love the drawing so much I wanted to share it here.  I don't know if it's as awesome as I think it is, but I'm impressed with the skills of my not-quite five year old up in here.

Above is a drawing of our family, done by Keaton this weekend.  Please note the details:

  • Sharaun's lovely flowing tresses
  • Cohen lying down, which is pretty much all he does
  • Dad is bald, not a hair to be found
  • The proportions are strikingly reflective of real life; Dad's the tallest, then mom, then Keaton and Cohen

Other things I love about the drawing:

  • We all appear to be happy and smiling
  • I don't think Sharaun has arms, or they are hidden in her hair
  • We are legs attached to heads (to be fair, so are all the people Keaton draws)
  • Her handwriting seems consistent and impressive to me (I am her dad, after all)
  • We all have just three fingers

One day I hope to show this to her when she's older... so cool.

Goodnight.

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11Oct/100

just some new pictures

Good morning internet.  I'm stiff and sore from getting out and putting up all the Halloween props and decorations so I'm just going to post the best of the bunch from the newest pictures.

Goodnight.

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8Oct/100

saying “i love you”

Hey Mom.  Hey Dad.

Hey... what's up?  How you guys doing?  Uh...

I'm sorry I don't say "I love you" when we're ending our phone conversations.

I have no real idea why I don't, and almost every time I hang up after talking to one of you I regret not bidding you a more meaningful farewell.  Sometimes, when I'm saying whatever I do say, which is usually something like, "Well, just wanted to call and see how you're doing... talk to you later," the absence of the "I love you" seems glaring and awkward.  It bothers me that this doesn't come naturally to me, that it sounds strange when I say it in soliloquy.

Once, when we were visiting you guys, I'm pretty sure I heard you say, "I love you too," when you were getting off the phone with John.  Ever since then I've been disappointed with myself because apparently my little brother can manage to say, "I love you," but I can't.  I hear Sharaun tell her dad, "Love you daddy," as they end a conversation, same with her mom.  And then I go and say something like, Take care."  What a cop-out.

So starting now I'm going to begin telling you I love you.  At the end of phone calls, when we part ways on the sidewalk outside the airport, after Thanksgiving dinner... I want to be like a normal kid who says normal things like that to his parents.

Do me a favor and don't make fun of me when I do it for the first time, OK?  It may actually be fairly difficult for me to break the habit of not saying it; tough getting around the strange awkward feeling I have as I begin to after having not for so long.

Talk to you later; take care.

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5Oct/100

∫time

Days where you feel like you get no "wind-down" are the worst.

Where the callings of work end and the callings of the home begin and things don't slow down until well after 9pm on the evening where your brain has to be "on" again for that 10pm meeting.  But it's my 9pm now and I have an hour to wind down and write and listen to some music.  I chose the 1993 shoegaze anthem Souvlaki by Slowdive.  If you've not heard this album you're really missing out (there are some songs on Grooveshark here).  Sometimes the sonic wash of bands like Slowdive or The Ecstasy of St. Theresa is just what the doctor ordered.

You people with three and four and five and more than five kids... you people amaze me.  Y'know when we had Keaton I wrote about (too lazy to look it up and link it) how I had to learn to be a lot less "selfish" upon her arrival.  Maybe four years was long enough for me to get ultimately settled into my more selfless, less me-time, routine... because with Cohen's arrival I'm struggling again with time-slicing things to where I feel like I'm being a good daddy, a good husband, and have a spare minute here or there to listen to some music and write on the internet and read some websites (we're talking weeknights here).  Maybe I'm thinking about things too discretely... or maybe I'm just as anal with my time as I am with everything else.

Lately I've been feeling like things just aren't "settling down" at night.  Or, when they do, I'm too tired to eke more night out of what's left.  I suppose this will pass as Cohen gets older and I get better at juggling and in general with time.  Or maybe not.  But man, you quiverfulls are to be admired.  Keep doing what you're doing... someone has to.

Goodnight.

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